A couple of weeks ago, I shared with you the beginning process of creating life on your terms.  That part of the process focused on clearing the way to allow possibilities into your life.

Today, we are putting it into action. Creating life on your terms is easy, when you know the formula and you’ve practiced it for a while.  There are some key places I see people get hung up pretty consistently, so we’ll cover those too.

You may be thinking, “Alexis, I’ll never see life on my terms until I hit the lottery….. or get over this illness……or break out of this unhappy marriage”.

Well, friend, I’m here to tell you that you don’t have to wait for the perfect situation to live life on your terms!  In fact, I’m going to show you how to create life on your terms regardless of what your circumstances are right now through the process of manifestation.

Now, before you dismiss what I’m about to say as woo-woo out there stuff, take a breath and listen.  This works.  It’s worked for me over and over and over again for the past 5 years.  It’s required patience and perseverance.

What I can tell you is that 6 years ago I was stuck in an unhappy marriage, working  in a job I didn’t like, living in an 850 square foot house and felt totally stuck.  Today, I work from home running a million dollar company, live in my dream home with an ocean view, drive a Mercedes that I’m only paying $400/month for, I’ve healed my relationship with my now ex-husband, have full custody of my kids and no longer have to pay huge child support or alimony.  I’m in a relationship with a man I love and I get to build businesses with and have great adventures with.  He’s exactly what I asked for.

All of it is attributable to the biggest single Wealth Secret I can share with you … the power of manifestation.

Understanding Manifestation as a Key Wealth Secret

The process of manifestation requires serious work on your part.  I don’t want to mislead you into thinking it’s an overnight process or that everything you want will drop in your lap with no effort on your part.  What I can tell you is that if you persevere and keep your eye on the prize - everything you want!- the rewards are immeasurable.

And, once you learn to harness the power of manifestation, you can use it in every area and aspect of your life.

So let’s get into the process of manifestation and discuss how you can use it to create life on your terms™.

1. Acknowledge What You Want
The first step to unleashing the process of manifestation is to get very clear with what you want in your life.   The more specific you are with your desires, the more effective this process will be.

So I want you to sit down and really think about what it is that you want at this point in your life and just spend some time acknowledging it.

This can be the most difficult part of the whole process.  It can be difficult to really own up to what we want.  It seems so big and unmanageable and impossible that we cut it off because our biggest fear is that we’ll want it and then not get it.

Here’s an example of what that looks like in my life:

There’s nothing I’ve wanted more than to be able to be a present hands-on mommy for my children.  But, because I thought it was impossible (I am the breadwinner in our family), I cut off that desire.  Instead of acknowledging my desire to be a hands-on mommy, I focused my energy on finding other people to take care of my kids and told myself I love working 14-16 hours a day.

That was a lie.  A lie I told myself that kept me from getting hurt by wanting something so badly and then not getting it.

What I really wanted was to be a hands-on mommy, raising my kids with my values, my experiences, my teachings.  And once I acknowledged that, which took me  a long time to do, I could begin to create a life that would allow for that.

So, the starting place is get out a pen and a pad of paper and write down everything you want in life.  Begin by going through a mental review of your day.  If you could make your life look anyway you wanted from the moment you woke up until you got back in bed at the end of the day, what would your day look like?

When you open your eyes, what would you see?

When you get up to go to the bathroom, what do you see?

What does your first meal of the day consistent of?

Who makes it?

Where do you eat it?

Who is with you during all of this?

Go through your day in that level of attention and detail and write down everything you want to experience.

Who is there?  What are you doing?  Where are you?

Resist the mind blocks that will come up that say “you can’t have that.”  Thank your mind for sharing and bring your attention back to what you really want without restriction.  Make this as big as you can possibly imagine and let the desire for even what feels impossible in to your fantasy.

Remember-you aren’t making any decisions as you get clear on what you want; rather, you are just getting comfortable with what you really desire that you’ve been blocking up until now.   So relax and do some old fashioned soul searching before you move on to the next step.

Most importantly - DO NOT JUDGE whatever comes up for you.

It could be that what you really want is a lavish lifestyle. Or perhaps, you really want simplicity.  It’s all right.  This is your life you are creating.  No one else’s.

Maybe you want to pay off your credit cards in 6 months or sell your house and move somewhere you’ve always wanted to live.  Maybe you want to travel around the world.  Maybe you want to go live on an Ashram in India or a Kibbutz in Israel.  Perhaps you want to stay right where you are and just have more freedom in your life.  Great!  Whatever it is, get as clear as you can on what that looks like before we move on to the next step.

I was going to give you all three steps today, but step 1 seems pretty big on its own.  So, where’s what we are going to do.

I’m giving you this next week to get step 1 done.  It can take that long to get through this part of the process.  Don’t shortchange yourself here.  Work through what you really, really want - keep a manifestation journal with you at all times and as you gain an awareness of something you want, jot it down in there.

And then I’ll see you next week with the other two parts of the process for manifesting everything you want in your life.

Oh and by the way, begin to welcome the experiences where you get to see exactly what you don’t want!  Sometimes that’s the very best way to get clear on what you want … by seeing and experiencing what you don’t.  So, the next time you are experiencing something you don’t want, instead of getting  angry and looking for someone to blame, be grateful and as I tell my kids allow it to focus you on what you do want.  Jot it down in your notebook and you are one step closer to creating life on your terms™.

For now, just do that.  As I tell my kids when they are freaking out because they don’t have something, focus on what you want.

After you’ve done that for a while and practiced that and gotten good at it, we can talk about the next step.  Perhaps you won’t even need the next step because just that will attract more than you can imagine.

Let me know and I’ve give you another practice next week.